hkctvdramas:

Perfect Couple (金玉良缘), EP03

Yu Qilin, the female sex predator…

"This is so boring when do we get to the part where we have sex?"

This would so be me if I get married.

get-thee-to-a-library:

strandbooks:

50 Incredibly Tough Books for Extreme Readers

There are some good ones in there. Are you up to the challenge? How many have you read?

I’ve read three of them. Makes me feel good about it.

ilovecharts:

Blueprint of IKEA
via n-arrowpath

ilovecharts:

Blueprint of IKEA

via n-arrowpath

lemonysnicketlibrary:

What’s the verdict? Are you worth kidnapping?

I like charts.

edgywhitepeople:

filthyrawanduncensored:

i think what the sex positivity movement needs are two little things called “a filter” and “a sense of privacy”

i think what the sex positivity movement needs is one thing called “an end”

“If someone can be kicked out of school for copying a paper, a person should be kicked out of school for raping another human being.”
Wagatwe Wanjuki, UVM Dismantling Rape Culture Conference 2014 (via byebyethinspo)
frostedeer:

foxykurt:

what really matters

I DID NOT KNOW THIS WEBSITE EXISTED OH MY GOODNESS

frostedeer:

foxykurt:

what really matters

I DID NOT KNOW THIS WEBSITE EXISTED OH MY GOODNESS

manhating-babyeater:

tell white men they look too serious

tell them to smile

tell them if they don’t want to get made fun of they should have thought of that before they left their house

tell them girls will be girls anytime they complain about our behavior

yawn dramatically when they talk

walk away from them mid-sentence

anytime they come to a decision that concerns only them, make sure they’ve really thought about from all angles. Play devils advocate.

interrogate them on all their choices, demand answers! demand justifications!

take up the whole sidewalk and make them walk around you

explain obvious things to them. speak slowly and enunciate.

feign kindness and then yell at them if they don’t give you money in return. tell them they owe you.

trip them and then yell at them when they get mad about it

tell them how cute they are when they’re angry

tell them to stop being so emotional

tell them to learn how to take a joke

tell them they’re a kill joy

(Source: manhatingbabyeater)

As was the case last year, Take Back the Night was a powerful event that promoted community building and support, validation, and empowerment. The stories left both me and Cole thoughtful, but on different aspects of relationships and sex. However, this year something else lingered for me to digest: some new link between porn and violence clicking.

I remember last year feeling the prickling and surprising aftershocks of my first relationship; realizing how many of my sexual interactions therein were coercive and manipulated, how little consent there was at times. I felt damaged by this, deadened by the year(s) of unwanted (or un-fully-wanted) encounters of various types.

This year, lil brother Cole was asking all these questions about why someone would use an unusual pronoun, how someone would know if they had a non-normative sexual identity of any kind, why different words are used for similar ideas/identities, and so on. It was great and I was so glad we went.

What I’ve been having trouble with is this: I think I was stirred by one story that stayed with me, in which some of the men who had abused the storyteller seemed to be acting on sexual scripts that they had learned from porn. On sexual scripts that on some occasions in the past I have also engaged in: using force, tossing on the bed, calling her a good girl, choking. I think there’s nothing wrong with these things in an enthusiastic and consensual context, but I think what’s been bothering me is the realization that the mainstreaming avenue for these behaviors, one of the things that made these men think it was okay to force them on a woman, was the average porn video.

So many of the traumatic stories were of men behaving the way porn stars do by inflicting sexualized violence upon women. The way that we’ve come to accept these manifestations of sexualized violence as scot-free sexuality itself is disturbing to me. The way these accepted manifestations of sexualized violence are shared both by my sexual partners and these horrifying rapists is disturbing to me. The way that the sex positive movement seems, at times, to give all of porn a free pass.

Annnnd what’s most: I don’t know now how to embrace sexual behaviors that mimic the horrifying violence endured by others, when these two things (sexual expectations of me by men, and the assault on and violation of other women) both stem from the same shit misogynistic capitalist exploitative porn videos.

basedpidgeot:

feather-in-my-cap-and-cheese:

urbendisaster:

what?

The wheels take impact and stress off your legs, and the position helps your spine, but you’re still doing running motions instead of biking motions, so your legs are getting a good workout, and you can go for longer

nerdy shit aside, iamgine how sick it must be to just let those feet fly into the air and do superman poses down a highway


Seriously what do you even have to do to be an inventor these days.

basedpidgeot:

feather-in-my-cap-and-cheese:

urbendisaster:

what?

The wheels take impact and stress off your legs, and the position helps your spine, but you’re still doing running motions instead of biking motions, so your legs are getting a good workout, and you can go for longer

nerdy shit aside, iamgine how sick it must be to just let those feet fly into the air and do superman poses down a highway

Seriously what do you even have to do to be an inventor these days.

(Source: cute-decoration)